Some People Assume Too Much

December 14, 2007

The past couple of weeks have literally been like hell on earth for me. Ok, maybe not THAT bad, but you get the idea. It was like all my professors got together and conspired against me to see who could assign the most homework! And let me tell you, it was a 6 -way tie! So I’ve been running around like a chicken with its head cut off trying to make it out of the last three weeks alive. I think I finally made it though. I hate to sound ungrateful - that definitely isn’t my intention. I realize that I am very blessed to be at BYU recieving such an amazing education. Plus, I’m majoring in something that I love (ENGLISH) so that makes it worthwhile. But oh my heavens it is STRESSFUL! Especially when I have to work to support myself on top of trying to get good grades.
But this is not the purpose of my entry today. Today I would like to rant about something else. First, however, I want to warn anyone who reads this to please not take it the wrong way. What I’m about to say could easily be taken as egotistical or conceited, but it is definitely not in any way. It is just a common frustration that I believe most girls share.
That said, I would like to say that I am seriously sick and tired of people assuming too much. I suppose I should probably narrow that down and say that I am sick and tired of guys who assume too much. To demonstrate what I mean by this, I’ll share a conversation that I had with a male friend of mine this evening. This friend of mine started a harmless conversation by asking me what my plans are for tomorrow. I responded by telling him all the things that I plan to do tomorrow during the day, and then I told him that tomorrow night I have a date which, I added, is a miraculous thing since I hardly ever get asked out. To this my friend responded by telling me that he didn’t believe that for one minute. I explained to him that only two guys in my ward this whole semester had asked me out, and I only got to go out with one of them. My friend seemed a little skeptical of this (it’s true, I swear!) but he seemed to accept it as truthful and said, I bet that guys don’t ask you out because they already assume that you go out a lot. Why would anyone assume such a thing? I asked. And furthermore, why on earth would that matter if a guy truly wanted to get to know me? To this his only answer was that I just “look” like the type of girl who gets asked out a lot. I have no idea what that means, but I do know that it’s NOT TRUE!
So, I would really appreciate it if guys would just stop making excuses for themselves and just ask girls out if they want to - regardless of whether or not they think the girl goes out a lot. What’s wrong with a little competition??? I feel so robbed of the opportunity to get to know more guys because of this stupid assumption. It’s really just not fair.
I also don’t understand why people are so stuck on judging others on first impressions rather than genuinely trying to meet and get to know people. I’m aware that some people may be put off by me at first, but I promise that if people would just try to get to know me they wouldn’t think I was that bad! I understand that this same rule goes for me - I deserve no exemption. But at least I am trying. Is it too much to ask for everyone else to try with me???